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Comment on Stepping up, without stepping on toes by Diana Ratcliff (@DLeighism)

Diana Ratcliff (@DLeighism) — Wed, 16 May 2012 09:48:34 +0000

* modified. Hate it when I misspell something, and catch right as I’m hitting the submit button!

Comment on Stepping up, without stepping on toes by Diana Ratcliff (@DLeighism)

Diana Ratcliff (@DLeighism) — Wed, 16 May 2012 09:47:26 +0000

My sister directed me to your blog when my ex and I first separated. You both have been an inspiration to me, and we are following your 50/50 model. We modifyed it to fit our needs as I’m still unemployed, so we have no need for after school care. Anyways, I recently tagged you on my site at http://www.raisingexpats.com in a blogger networking game. I understand if you don’t participate, but I wanted to direct people who read mine to yours, because I think a lot of people could learn from you two. Good luck with everything.

Comment on Stepping up, without stepping on toes by LOD

LOD — Mon, 14 May 2012 04:21:17 +0000

They don’t tell you any of this when you’re getting ready to get married. The sagest thing our minister told me before our wedding was not to arrive drunk.

Comment on Stepping up, without stepping on toes by LOD

LOD — Mon, 14 May 2012 04:20:09 +0000

If it happens, it happens. It’s never anything serious, and I sleep well at night. (If you’d asked me this a year ago when I was still in Manhattan, I might have replied differently.)

Comment on Stepping up, without stepping on toes by Kathleen

Kathleen — Sat, 05 May 2012 01:54:10 +0000

If only couples that are still married could do this as well. It might save a lot of marriages.

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Mon, 30 Apr 2012 17:59:43 +0000

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Comment on Stepping up, without stepping on toes by J

Sun, 29 Apr 2012 11:23:29 +0000

As true for cohabitating couples as separated. I’m definitely guilty of holding on to the Mom control factor while at the same time silently grumbling over my partner’s more removed role. I think we could use a big-picture coparenting negotiation/agreement just to flesh this all out. But shaking that control – a hard one. It requires letting go and trusting that if X, Y and Z doesn’t get done (or doesn’t get done MY way) the world won’t end. And that my resentment won’t build exponentially. What happens with you guys when something falls through the cracks?

Comment on Stepping up, without stepping on toes by myhonestanswer

myhonestanswer — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 11:38:14 +0000

You guys are so sensible! I love it.

Comment on Stepping up, without stepping on toes by missgreenpenny

missgreenpenny — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 04:36:14 +0000

I love this commentary. I think many problems result when one person slacks off on their responsibility, but it is also the duty of the other, maybe more responsible-prone individual, to relinquish control. Thanks for your post.

Comment on For This Divorced Mom, Traveling For Work Is No Big Thing by LOD

LOD — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 22:28:26 +0000

That’s the unavoidable truth: to any co-parenting arrangement, a deadbeat spouse is Kryptonite.